okay, so i totally believe in sexual freedom and expression and all that. i’m openly bisexual myself, although that is a fairly cut-and-dry explanation for what i am. BUT I HATE IT when people confuse these three SEPARATE ISSUES: gender, sexuality and sexual identity.
GENDER is your biology; physiology. you are either woman or man - and on very rare occasions somewhere in between. this particular segment is ENTIRELY segregated from the other two, who are reasonably linked. this is because GENDER IS BIOLOGY. SEXUALITY/SEXUAL IDENTITY IS CHEMICAL/EMOTIONAL.
sexuality explains what you prefer in a sexual partner. sexual identity is the way you feel about your own expression of your sexuality - and while this CAN alter the way in which you view your gender, or it’s societal expectations, this DOES NOT CHANGE SAID GENDER.
you can happily be a man who enjoys women but also sexually identifies himself as feminine. it’s stranger to society’s eyes, so to speak, but if it creates a comfortable existence for that person, that’s a-okay.
what i’m sick to death of is those parents who refuse to acknowledge whether their child is a “boy” or a “girl” - so this kid grows up to be all kinds of fucked up.
people, stop confusing gender with sexuality.
binary gender exists because only (with rare exceptions on evolution’s part) two main groups of physical genitalia exist - male and female. what you do with those parts? or how those parts react to certain imagery? all sexuality.
I don’t know where your understanding of gender comes from but it is way out of line with the general consensus of gender studies and although it is probably not your intent, this class of backwards thought that you are spreading is toxic to the gender identity of any trans* person.
Gender identity (not to be confused with biological sex) is by definition not biological as you claim it to be. To paraphrase Wikipedia, It is one’s own personal, internal acceptance of membership into a category of people defined by a set of characteristics that exist within a particular society.
Gender expression is linked to gender identity and it is the set of characteristics that a person chooses to display to other people in their society in order to express their gender. Simple right?
Gender Identity and gender expression are separate from biological sex, because no matter what genitals you are born with, your acceptance by other members of your society into a gender is determined entirely by your gender expression, and the gender you chose is not necessarily the gender that is typically assigned to people with your genitals, as it should be!
Gender (unlike biological sex) is most certainly not binary. As gender is based on a series of loosely defined characteristics that evolved from social constructs, someone who conforms to some male characteristics and some female characteristics may not necessarily be either. People can chose to identify as genderqueer, which is an umbrella term for any gender that exists outside the binary of male and female; and can be either both genders, neither gender (like me!) genderfluid or any number of other genders.
There are also people whose gender is not the gender that is typically assigned to their sex, these people are transgender.
So it’s not that simple, you aren’t “either a man or a woman”, and when you say stuff like this as if it’s so factual, it is harmful to the gender identities of the many thousands of people like me who exist outside the binary. I’d like to kindly suggest that you post a correction to all of your followers. Thanks